What do I do to save my ets and get past this..?

I am going into battle against a woman who I have not the want or the heart to fight. I do not want a divorce, as a matter of fact I have done everything in every possible way to prevent this. So I thought. Looking back I did Everything wrong. From crying like a baby for days after she left to texting , calling to much. I never could see what everyone was telling me. They said let her go. Let her miss you. It didn't click for me. I was devastated. My whole world had stopped spinning. I had been taken to the darkest place one could ever visit. I got to meet all the dark demons that put me here in the first place. I found myself not wanting to except her decision. I thought I had the answers for "US" and didn't get why she had given up. I still don't. Anyway, Her mother chirping in her ear had installed fear in her. I had never seen fear in my wife before. I was more confused. I tried to do everything so she would see me for me. It was so screwed up. You go from being the man she loves to the man she is afraid of. She went and got a no contact order to keep me away. She acted as if I was there 24/7. I wasn't and even if I was it was my house as well. Here is the issues. I own my house, have since before we married. the house she has is jointly owned and purchased as a flip house. It has been on market for two years. I paid mortgage's on both houses. I did all the work on the house she moved to. There is a $10000 Credit card in my name I had got soley for the remodel at the flip house. She had &7200 in cc debt coming into marriage I had $1200. her cc debt is now #11200 and mine including the remodel card is around $17000. I have my own business and own a good deal of trucks and Equipment trailers and skid loader. She wants to take the house she is in (she retain the mortgage) she wants me to eat the remodel card,, She wants $10,000 cash as well. She has in her custody a cobra mustang that was mine then titlede to her and after she moved she sighed the title back to me. She then went to treasurers and got a duplicate then stole it. What can I do.